Five Myths About Wedding Dress Shopping

Hello curvy bride! Are you ready to start your dress shopping journey, and everyone is giving you advice about how you should, or should not, respond when you find “the one?”

LET US PUT YOUR MIND AT EASE.

Listen, your wedding dress shopping journey will be unique to you. No two brides are alike so no experience will be the same. And while cousin Sally may have gone shopping before, or your mom watches hundreds of episodes of wedding shows, that doesn’t mean they know exactly how YOU will react when you’re the one on the pedestal.

In this post we talk about the Top Five Myths of wedding dress shopping, and why they can hurt your experience, but only if you let them. Ready? Lets go!

The “Say Yes to the Dress” Illusion

If there is one thing bridal stylists love/hate to hear, it is “I watch a TON of Say Yes to the Dress!” While this can be a fun show to fill your time, taking it as the basis for what to expect when you go wedding dress shopping could set you up for downright disappointment.

Couple of things to note about Say Yes to the Dress -

  1. Brides have to apply to be on the show which means they’re looking for brides with stories who can evoke emotion, have a larger than life outlook on their big day, or will turn up the heat in the drama department to make for better viewing.

  2. According to Insider, producers try to stir up even more emotions between brides and her entourage by asking more questions about statements which could cause disagreements.

  3. You are watching a television show which means while brides are potentially saying yes to their dress everything has been dramatized, and given brides unrealistic ideas of what to expect.

So, takeaway from this? Watching this show may give you an idea of styles, and trends, but don’t use this as a resource of what to expect when you go shopping. Bridal boutiques focus on providing intimate, and personalized experiences free of drama and bright lights.

If You Don’t Cry It’s Not Your Gown

This is probably one of the craziest myths we hear all the time, and one we have seen make brides really question whether they’re making the right decision or not.

Let me tell you a personal story. I did not cry when I found my dress, and that doesn’t mean I didn’t love the crap out of it! I am just not a cryer! And while some brides do get incredibly emotional for a multitude of reasons, just because you don’t shed tears of joy doesn’t mean that isn’t your dress. You’re going to try on tons of gowns at your appointment so the shock of seeing yourself in a wedding dress will ware off. Don’t second guess yourself. You know yourself better than anyone, and if you LOVE a dress then that is all that matters.

Another piece of advice? Don’t let the tears of others make you think you’re making a wrong decision. Your entourage may get emotional over a dress you’re not in love with, and you can’t let their emotions lead you in a different direction. Listen to yourself, and let your own heart guide you!

Must. Keep. Shopping.

So, you go to the bridal shop, find a beautiful dress, feel like it is the one, and then someone says “but you can’t buy from the first place you try on!”

Ummm. Why the hell not?

Here’s the thing. There are about eight wedding dress silhouettes, and about four design options - plain, lace, beading, or a combo of both. When you go to your appointment you will try on all of these options, and if you find a dress that speaks to you, makes you feel beautiful, confident, sexy, and exactly how you want to feel on the big day then GIRL THAT IS YOUR DRESS!

It doesn’t matter how many places you go. Let me repeat that statement. IT DOESN’T MATTER HOW MANY PLACES YOU GO! Why would you keep shopping and trying to re-live the moment you have already had in a dress that you love? Don’t go chasing the dress girl. The more dresses you try on the more confused you get. The more confused you get the less you listen to yourself. And when you don’t listen to yourself you end up picking a dress you don’t love.

So, when you find the one, don’t feel guilty about purchasing, and don’t feel pressured to keep going. Celebrate girl!

Big Entourage = More Fun

Wrong as a dong all day long (Last Man on Earth reference…. anyone…?). We all want to bring our moms, besties, and important people in our lives to the bridal appointment. And there is nothing wrong with that! But sometimes when you have lots of voices shouting at you, your own voice can get lost, and that is not at all what we want.

At the end of the day YOU’RE the one that has to wear the dress, and it is important to be able to clearly think about what it is that you do/don’t like about certain styles. Make sure you bring people who can give you advice, and positive opinions, but will ultimately support and love the choice YOU make.

Another reason to keep things smaller? Many bridal stores have guest limits for this very reason, especially on Saturdays when things get busy. Don’t want to make friends or family upset? Split up the group, and bring the most important with you to purchase, and the others to your Pick Up appointment once the dress arrives!

I Can Find It Cheaper Online

Girl, I could talk about this for days, but for the sake of this blog post I am going to touch on a couple of things. In this day and age when you can find almost anything online, and have it shipped to you in 48 hours, it is tempting to visit your local boutique, and then go online to see what’s available. But there is always a catch. Here are the most important things to keep in mind:

  • Designer Gowns For Cheap = Knockoffs

    • Most reputable designers work strictly with brick and mortar retail stores to sell their items, and do not allow us to sell online. This means if you see an Allure gown for $300.00, it is more than likely fake, and not actually made to the same standards which means fit, shape and style are all sacrificed

  • You Get What You Pay For

    • If the price is too good to be true, it probably is too good to be true! When it comes to your wedding dress brides who spend good money will receive a good quality product, and the backing to know if something is wrong it will be taken care of ASAP. Buy online for dirt cheap? Good luck trying to get money back if there are issues, or if your items don’t get delivered. Why add all the stress when you don’t have to?

  • Big Box Stores Have It For Less

    • When a designer sells to a large company, the company purchases a large quantity of dresses at a discounted price and holds them in a warehouse. They fill online orders as they come in. If they need to drum up more business, inventory in a style gets low, or they realize the gown doesn’t sell, they mark the dresses down to liquidate inventory. As a bridal stores work we work on a special order basis. This means when you say yes, we submit the order to the designer, and they create a brand new gown specifically for you. As a small business we do not have the ability to purchase in large quantities to secure lower pricing, so our cost of goods will always be higher, and for good reason. When you shop at a big box store you’re a number, and you sacrifice the personalized experience, education/expertise, and quality of goods that boutiques can offer.

Lessons learned today? What you see on television isn’t always real life, crying doesn’t mean you’re not in love, more shopping doesn’t mean more clarity, big groups aren’t for everyone, and online shopping doesn’t always work.

Five Myths of Wedding Dress Shopping



Our Favorite Things - Kansas City Wedding Invitations & Paper Goods

Wedding invitations can set the tone, and sometimes it is the first thing your guests see for the big day. Whether you’re creating a classic and traditional look, or going for more of a creative and whimsical feel having proper guidance is key.

These wedding invitation and paper good vendors are artists, and will help you with everything from the type of paper to print on to the wording you need to use. Here are our favorite Kansas City wedding stationery boutiques you NEED to have on your team. Ready? GOOD!

Yellowbrick Graphics

YellowBrick Graphics is a custom stationery boutique specializing in save the dates, wedding invitations, and day of paper. We offer many different printing techniques and assembly options for you to customize your invitations to be uniquely yours!

In 2010 while living in Alabama, Mickenzie was asked to design an invitation for a dear friend, and thus the first brick was laid. From there, she was flooded with inspiration on bold, inspiring design that would get guests talking. Before we knew it, Mickenzie was working YellowBrick Graphics full time and Gary continued as the dutiful husband, packing shipments, running to the printer, and any other errands he could do to help this wild adventure. Now, almost EIGHT years later we are still going! Mickenzie is still the main designer and Gary handles the logistics and we are loving every minute of it.

A boy from Indiana and a girl from Oklahoma, we are a married duo that met right here in the beautiful state of Kansas! Landlocked and together, we spend our days creating beautiful stationery for any event.

Yellowbrick Graphics Website - https://www.yellowbrickgraphics.com/
Instagram - @yellowbrickgraphics
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/yellowbrickgraphics/

BP Creative Group

BP Creative Group is a full-service graphic design studio with a combined thirteen years of experience in the wedding and design industries. With our expertise in corporate graphic design and nonprofit event design, our luxury wedding invitation suites and custom day-of pieces ensure that your ceremony and reception are beautifully and cohesively branded. We are excited to have recently launched The Wedding Brand Experience™, a white-glove wedding design service that allows you to sit back and relax while we dream up and plan out every single design element implemented throughout your big day. BP Creative Group is laser focused on delivering an experience to our clients and their guests through insightful and intentional design from start to finish.

BP Creative Group Website - http://bpcreativegroup.com/
Instagram - @teamblissful
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/BlissfulPrints/

East + West Designs

At East + West, we design custom wedding invitations and stationery items for those in love. We believe in the powerful impact of first impressions, that being one-of-a-kind is more valuable than gold, and the best way to serve others is with love. Find out how to tell your story, focus on what matters, and make a lasting impression. Pull up a chair, grab a cup of coffee, or some wine, a beer, maybe a cocktail? Girl, pick your poison and let's do this! Send us a message or shoot us an email at hello@eastandwestdesigns.com to get started. We can't wait to hear from you! (:

East + West Designs Website - https://eastandwestdesigns.com/
Instagram - eastandwestdesigns
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/eastandwestdesigns/

Our Favorite Things - Wedding Planners

The biggest piece of advice we can give brides is the enjoy the little things on their big day, but how does one achieve this? HIRE A WEDDING PLANNER. Honestly. This isn't some ploy, or scheme. This is the honest truth on how a bride, and her loved ones, can actually be present, and enjoy her wedding day. So it is only natural that we highlight our favorite Kansas City Wedding Planners in this month's Our Favorite Things.

Wedding planners are the best friend you've never had, the ladies who provide the best motherly advice, give the best hugs, and are always in your corner no matter their personal feelings. They know the ins and outs of the wedding industry, have literally helped couples under the most stressful situations, and always come out on top. You would be a fool not to add one of these amazing pros to your wedding lineup. SO CONTACT THEM NOW. Literally. Stop what you're doing, and reach out. You're welcome.

Celebrations Of Love | Weddings & Events by Christine

Living just four miles south of my parents’ home where I grew up with my four sisters, I’m not only familiar with the streets of Kansas City and the surrounding metro area, but they are ones I have driven, walked, and explored for over 25 years. I attended Saint Louis University, where I earned my bachelor’s degree in Business Marketing from John Cook School of Business, so I also have a soft spot in my heart for everything Saint Louis, especially those Cardinals.

As a wedding planner, I get to combine my passion for helping people with my knack for problem-solving and creative thinking. I like to say that I’m the thread that runs through every part of the wedding, tying together all of the pieces to create one cohesive event. And I believe every bride deserves an assistant—a “fairy godmother”—on her special day.

An advocate for my clients’ wishes through every step of the planning process, I make sure they feel comfortable and confident in all of their decisions. To guarantee that everything runs smoothly, I bring vendors up to speed, keep track of details and timing, and act as an extra set of hands. I never settle for less than my best in any area. The result? My clients and their families can simply relax and celebrate!

Now, if you don't find me in local craft shops searching for the perfect items for my clients’ weddings or at networking events catching up with other area wedding professionals, you might find me running triathlons/5ks or enjoying the preserve that surrounds my little yellow cottage. Staying healthy and positive is my top priority so that my jam-packed schedule doesn’t wear me down—though a cup of coffee (or a few!) often helps me power through. When it’s time to relax, my absolute favorite things to do are cuddle up with a million blankets (especially on a snowy winter night), watch romantic movies, and drink a glass of blush wine or champagne.

Pretty + Planned

Hi…I’m Stephanie!

I’ve been coordinating events in the Kansas City area for over 12 years now. I got my start with my first college internship with ‘A Brides Best Friend’ a wedding consultant company. This experience developed within me the desire to expand my knowledge of event coordination, and the dream of starting my own business. After my internship I worked as a lead wedding coordinator for Unity Village, a large and busy venue in Kansas City, where I sometimes balanced multiple weddings a day. Having experienced planning in both my college internship, and then on a corporate level, I knew in my heart that entrepreneurship was the route I wanted to pursue. So my journey building my own business began!

I completely love being a personal wedding & event planner. I love when my clients tell me how invaluable I am to them, and how I’ve turned their dream plans into reality. It’s a amazing feeling to be the person someone trusts with their plans, and to be able to put everyone at ease so that the day can be enjoyed to the fullest without worry or stress.

I’d love to hear from you and discuss how I can help turn your ideas into reality!

Fun Facts:

Hometown: Kansas City

Family: Married my college sweetheart, Jack, in 2009. We have… 2 dog children: Mackenzie (Puggle) & Murphy (German Shepherd). Our 1st human child came in March of 2015, our daughter, Colette Elise.

Passionate about: Faith, family, creating beautiful weddings and events that leave lasting memories, supporting other small businesses & international travel.

Described style: Romantic and classic with some flair here and there. I love timeless & traditional pieces, with adding in some personality.

Likes: Brunch, pedicures, tacos, lake life, Netflix, pretty chandeliers, 80s/90s music, country music, iced coffee, lemon flavored anything, positive and funny people, Royals & Chiefs games, traveling.

Nerdy for: Paper products, office & organization items, inspirational books & people, learning/exploring other countries.

Magical Moments Weddings & Events

Buffee Ann - Owner/Executive Event Manager

believe in soul mates. I believe in that moment when you just know you met the person in your forever. I believe in a lifelong commitment to love and hold dear one person above all others even when times aren't easy. I am certain in these things because I've been blessed to experience them in my own life. Love is a powerful emotion and it can lead to amazing adventures.

I remember every single ceremony and the unique electricity in the air when a couple sees their beloved walking towards them. Each of those moments are burned into my heart forever and I'm always grateful I was chosen to share in that eternal moment. I am passionate about helping you create a unique event to tell your own perfect love story. Your relationship is unlike any other, so why would your wedding which is an expression of that story, be any different? The memories of your wedding day can be enhanced my choosing the best "wedding village" for you. We would be honored to help in your search.

Wild Hill Flowers & Events

Event Planning Services

Coordination Manager: Elizabeth Lang
Lead Coordinators: Emily, Katelyn & Hannah

Wild Hill Flowers and Events specializes in custom wedding floral design and coordination. We love everything about the planning and design process – resulting in a curated experience just for you! Our goal is to take your vision and make it a reality. Whether the wedding is romantic, elegant or rustic, we’ll work together to deliver the most lovely combination of flowers and seamless coordination for an unforgettable event.

 Our coordination team loves everything about weddings, especially the unique touch each couple adds to their special day! As your wedding coordinator, it is our goal to provide a seamless and stress free day. From the time of your initial consultation, we will help bring your vision to life by teaming up with vendors and wedding specialists. Ranging from Month-Of services to Full Planning, Wild Hill Flowers and Events has a package that fits your wedding planning journey! It is our goal to make sure each and every #WildHillBride has a FUN wedding day!

Whether your event is chic and luxurious or rustic and natural, we will work with you on coordination, organization, and design to create the perfect wedding of your dreams! Lead by Elizabeth Lang, our team of coordinators will make sure your wedding is executed flawlessly so that you can fully enjoy the day.